Model: Allisa Scott Photographer: Shady Ammari
Sex…a word that can mean so many different things to different people; a word that will always exist because the act of sex is forever. A form of sexual expression becoming more wide-spread in North America is pornography. Although pornography can be perceived differently among individuals, it has introduced society to many different kinds of sex as well as unique sexual positions igniting people’s imaginations. However just as there are many different kinds of lovers, there are many different kinds of love. In this response I will only focus one aspect of sex: Respect. Respect for yourself and others in the act of sex.
One thing you should know about me before I continue is that I love to read. One of the best books on sex I have come across is “Soul Cravings” by E.R. McManus, who states that “sex can be the most intimate and beautiful expression of love, but we are only lying to ourselves when we act as if sex is proof of love”. This book seems to point out that there is no such thing as free sex. For instance, there may be a couple where person A may think of sex as an act of love that two individuals share when there is a bond of trust between two people who love each other, while person B may not feel the same way, only wanting sex without really having to show any form of love or commitment.
I think it’s important to be able to talk about your sexual feelings with your partner or partner’s in order to understand both yourself and their feelings. I think that this kind of discussion can create a deeper relationship with each other. For some, it may even delay sexual activity with one another until you both feel comfortable and ready before making a decision to be with each other sexually.
I guess what I want to say is to: love yourself. I believe in loving you first and foremost before you engage into a serious relationship involving sex. Do this by getting to know who you are. The career services centre on King Street has personality tests, and assessments to find out what you’re about. Not only does it give you insight about yourself but also into what type of job would best suit you! Be true to yourself and listen to your brain. I say this because sometimes the heart can trick you into thinking something is good when in fact it is not always the case, as in the example between partners A and B. I believe once you know who you are then can you truly understand yourself in relation to others.
What a friend told me is to always remember that someone out there loves you completely in a way that will never let you down. Think about it. Happy loving,